Because you minimized what I'd been through. You minimized what my people go through. Suffering loss and captivity and torture and abuse is the height of suffering; what you have seen is not worse than what my people go through.

[His voice has returned to mostly patient. She's listening, at least.]

No one who has been through what many mages have, or what many elves have, would find it easy to hear someone else imply their suffering and pain is nothing when it has been a defining part of their lives.